Saturday, February 17, 2007

Who mixed my colors ?

Growing up, I always hated the idea of being hated. Equations in life were simple - if people hate you then they are probably someone to be wary of and if they don't they are your friends...Over the years - some cynicism has crept in ... instead of feelings of love and hate (which are absolute), feelings relative to my expectations have started making me wary of people or liking them. In my recent conversation with a friend - I had said that unsolicited affection can be more dangerous than unsolicited hatred. It was a thought that stayed with me. Why would anyone not like someone liking them. Is it because we have learnt from our experiences that affection without any expectation is rare. And though everytime we meet great people who exhibit such qualities and our faith in our original innocent hypothesis starts increasing - something happens that makes us realize its naivete'.
My friend told that she refused to give lift to a woman who was wearing torn clothes. Later her husband gave her lift and he found that her son was in dire need of some oxygen cylinder and she was too poor to afford it. My friend felt bad for not trusting her when it was her turn - but can she use this incident to give lift to a next person in torn clothes? Isn't it difficult to keep up with the idea of an ideal world - especially when you know that that one wrong person, that one wrong incident, that one drop of guard might ruin the rest of your life (or end it)...

Why is the world no longer black or white? why is it grey ..with varied shades...how do I keep up?

9 comments:

Alistair D'souza said...

Q) Who mixed my colors ?
A) You did :-)

Paint your masterpieces before the colors get too mixed up or worse, dry up...

Unknown said...

Why gray? Coz, life won't be fun at all if it was all white or all black (Think about it!).

I say, try following what you relate better with, the innocence or the practicality ... yes be a bit black, a bit white, whatever you feel at peace with .. and after a while, see unless you are doing quite bad, just be yourself.

Else, think, analyze and perhaps adapt a little.

Vaidehi Dongre said...

good post. i still think, we r either white or black, btu we want to be pursued as grey at times. & it is eqaully baffling for me as well, if that makes u feel any better.

Ankur Gupta said...

A black and white world would be too simple or should i say too boring??

Affection is never without a reason, it might have an expectation, it might just be an investment, a little good and a treasure in form of a friend forever.

Even parents don't love their kids without a reason, they feel good after doing good for their kids, that "feel good" factor is their earning out of it. Many people help others for that "feel good" factor.

What's wrong if someone's good to you for a reason?

Vaidehi Dongre said...

i meant percieved not pursued.

arati kadav said...

@ali - something deep hmm ...thankfully have already painted some good ones...
@utkarsh- sometimes you ust wnat peace - want to take things by face value - that's why i don't like it...though that is a fun exercise - let me be all black with you for a while..
@vids- yes that is the tricky part isn't it -
@ankur - you have sometime before you grow up :P..

Unknown said...

:) ... Ok, be all black you want. [I am scared :) , but ok, thats what you want.]

I know you almost nothing, but still I think you can't be at peace playing black for long!

Richard said...

Whats wrong if someone sees all good or bad in you and tells you straight. What does it have to do wtih your expectation, their expectation, your expectation what they should be expecting from you and loop and stuff. If you are worried about crookedness then human mind is more crooked, than you could ever analyze. some people may not flatter you at all knowing the type of person you are, and make their way. What looks harmless could still be harmful and the other way too. Guarding yourself a way too much may not pay off well in the end.
And a downside of it is, at times you could be inhuman and cruel to innocense without realizing it in your incomplete view of things.

Ideally I wouldn't care about the white,black or grey stuff, would rather go through all the vivid colors of life, get along well with whoever crosses my path. So what if I get robbed, cheated, betrayed a few times. Nothing is the end of the universe afterall if you really think about it.

kakkajee said...

the world was never black and white .. and u have just started to realize now that its not .. its like there are no real heroes and villains(or vamps) in life .. but people still make them up .. why ??? to simplify things i guess ..