Saturday, March 27, 2010

Unspoken life

Just you and me
And the fleeting moment
known to
Just you and me.

China house

Had lunch at china house and also dessert and masala chai in their(hyatt's) coffee shop later..with saurabh and swarna...yumm food .. for a long time two of them talked about equities and investment banking, while i was busy trying to establish an eye contact with the crab that i thought i was set to eat...saurabh ordered a lamb dish - really spicy gravy but amazing taste..i could see his eyes shine at the sight...good to unwind after a long time and not worry about long lunches..good to see saurabh eyes shine after a long time..even if it is at the sight of a dead lamb.. only worry was the calorie count - the whole world (and i am getting calls from across the globe about it) is telling me that i have gained weight (after seeing my shoot pics or my current avataar)... i know i know - i neglected and i am 29 years old now gosh - you expect me to have a 19 year old's figure or what...anyways - i have now joined gym - 7-8 am in the morning with a trainer who is this age you have to work twice as hard to look half as good...

asim says gym is only 20% - food is 80% so now i will try to control my food . asim followed that and reduced 10 kilos in 3-4 months..he looks good now..anyways i have thought of controlling my food also- i decided that in the morning and then we went to this china house to eat lunch- what a bummer..anyways...i am worrying about my weight - means i am now in ground state of my being...

Monday, March 15, 2010

Monogamy, polygamy and various trends

Was discussing the book "The selfish gene" with saurabh and we felt that it is in human nature to try to spread out as much as possible. And we tried to fathom how society became monogamous - contrary to basic human instincts.

So well earlier we were all hunters and life was risky. The more the number of people in the tribe the more powerful it would be and hence everyone was free for all. And the society was polygamous and polyandrous.

But then we became agriculture based. In early days - the size of land was not a constraint but the number of people working for it was. So the religion in those times expected woman to rear children. So women would start having kids since the age of 15. And they got dedicated to one man and settled with him - rearing his children. The polyandry bit was dropped and society became polygamous. However increasingly the agriculture income was not sufficient enough to support multiple wives and her kids so some religions like hinduism and christianity started having monogamous family. Though majority of religions still endorsed polygamy. But however, till our parents and our gen we have became monogamous.

Well now again both men and women are economically independent and need not really rear children. This is another extreme of from where we started. But the need to not having children or being loyal (for the sake of economic needs) is turning the society back to polygamous and polyandrous - a little unofficially.